Do Not Chase

Chasing after someone can be an all-consuming endeavor, one that can leave you feeling depleted and questioning your worth. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of pursuing someone, especially when feelings are strong and emotions are high. However,...

Going No Contact

Going “no contact” refers to the decision to cut off communication and interaction with a person, typically someone who has been toxic, abusive, or otherwise harmful to one’s well-being. The importance of going no contact cannot be overstated,...

Waiting for Love

I know the feeling of waiting for love can be both hopeful and daunting. There are moments when it feels like you’re ready to embrace it with open arms, and other times when the uncertainty of when or if it will come leaves you feeling restless. But in the midst...

A Letter to the Girl Who Wonders if She is Enough

I know that sometimes the doubts and questions swirling in your mind can feel overwhelming. You find yourself wondering if there’s something inherently wrong with you, if you’re somehow flawed or not measuring up to some invisible standard. I want you to...

A Letter to the Broken Hearted

I hope this letter finds you during a moment of peace amidst the storm of emotions you might be experiencing. I know that right now, the world may seem bleak, and your heart may feel like it’s been shattered into a million irreparable pieces. But please know,...

The Art of Pivoting

Thoughts for Thursday: In the grand symphony of life, the melody rarely plays according to the original score. Instead, it often orchestrates unexpected twists and turns, challenging us to adapt, grow, and pivot. Pivoting, in its essence, is about gracefully shifting...

Lessoned Learned

The last Thoughts for Thursday of 2023: This year has been a whirlwind to say the least. It seems each year passes quicker than the one before. We were always told that by our elders when we were younger, but I don’t think it really sank in until we became elders. I...

Take Out the Noise

Thoughts for Thursday : Take Out the Noise Odds were pretty much in your favor that you would get a Thoughts for Thursday this week, because I have been alone with my thoughts for a week now. The beach is where I come to clear my head, decompress, gather my thoughts,...

Healing

Thoughts for Thursday: 1.Healing is not a one-time event, but a continuous process of becoming. Healing is not something that happens overnight, or after a certain amount of time, or after a certain amount of therapy. Healing is a lifelong journey of discovering who...

Waiting

Thoughts for Thursday: As I wait for God to finish writing my story, I begin to think about if I am waiting “well”. Am I waiting with anxiety? Am I waiting in fear? Am I waiting in doubt? Am I waiting lazy? Am I waiting “well”? Are you in transition? Are you waiting...

Take it Personal

Thoughts for Thursday: Take everything PERSONAL. … A friend reaches out to say I love you and that they are thinking of you. Take it personal. You are invited to spend quality time with your family or friends. A reunion. A dinner. A holiday party. Take it...

FOMO

Sometimes Thursday Thoughts come on other days… We live in an on demand world. In an online society. So much so that we have been disconnected from reality with unlimited “choices “. You can shop for anything online. Even relationships. I’m not sure we even recognize...

Authentic

Thoughts for Thursday: I have often been told that people admire my ability to be authentic. Authentic is a very kind word for “different” I think I know that I’m different. I know that I’m complicated. I like to think that I’m complicated in a good way. I can say...

An Emotionally Gifted Woman

An emotionally gifted woman rarely considers the idea that her giftedness may be the very thing holding her back in relationships. She is a lot. She is a lot of goodness. A lot of passion. A lot of wisdom. A lot of grace. A lot of thought processes. And that terrifies...

Closure

How do we find closure? Closure from an ended relationship. Closure from something that no longer serves you. Closure from a toxic friendship or the loss of a job. Whatever the situation, we all find ourselves needing closure from time to time. I wish I had the magic...

Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

Narcissists are charming. Out of the blue they can swoop in, sweep you off your feet, and have you believing they are your soulmate instantaneously. Things are going great and then suddenly you start to feel like something is off with their behavior. You start to...

10 Tips for Dating Someone with Anxiety

Dating someone with anxiety can be overwhelming and stressful. The most important thing to remember is that you cannot change or fix their behavior. You can however work together and support each other. The following tips may be helpful for you.   Do your...

Let Them

“ Let Them” Just Let them. If they want to choose something or someone over you, LET THEM. If they want to go weeks without talking to you, LET THEM. If they are okay with never seeing you, LET THEM. If they are okay with always putting themselves first, LET THEM. If...

Cancel Culture

I cannot with this “Cancel Culture.” When did we as a society become so hateful and bitter? We all have our own beliefs. Just because you don’t agree with something doesn’t mean you have to take action. No one is forcing their opinions on you. Someone can hand you...

Choose You

You can love someone and still have to let them go. It’s possible to want to have someone in your life, and know that isn’t possible. Sometimes people aren’t able, willing or capable of showing up for us in the way we wish they would. Releasing them isn’t a...

Same Girl

Womanhood can be a nasty road to navigate. The journey is a bumpy one. A curvy one. And a multitude of highs and lows. We are worn. We are wounded. And we carry heavy baggage. No matter how supportive your family is, how lovely a church service you attended, or how...

Find Your Purpose

There are 42 million women in the United States between the age of 40-60. Big life transitions happen in these years. Things like divorce, empty nest, career change, burnout, menopause and a multitude of other distractions. Is it any wonder we feel crazy, anxious, out...

Toxic Traits

It took me a long time to realize that my toxic trait is pouring into others. I pick broken people. I take in lost puppies and stray kittens. Don’t get me wrong, that trait is honorable. I’m not saying that God doesn’t want us to help people. Because He does. I know...

God is For Us

With God on our side, how can we lose? And who would dare tangle with God by messing with one of God’s chosen? Who would dare to even try? Do you think that anyone is going to be able to drive a wedge between you and Christ’s love for you? The answer is no. They will...

Name Calling

Why do people feel the need to fling insults? Name calling really has nothing to do with the person the insults are being directed at. We often associate name calling with adolescence. But unfortunately, some never grow out of it. Name calling is one of the most...

Goals

When God gives you a vision, when he lays something on your heart, see it through. It doesn’t matter if others don’t understand, God does. Let them question, Let them doubt. Take a leap of faith God will never fail to meet you there. #makeyourdreamshappen #goals...

Let it Go

What drives you? What makes you happy? What are your goals? What motivates you? What stands in your way? What is your plan? Society tells us that you should want the big house and then want a bigger house. That every other year you should be upgrading your car, your...

Rise Again

I’ve had my spirit crushed, my dreams shattered, and my heart broken.. many times. Guess what ? I’m still here. And I’m stronger than ever. There have been days when I didn’t think I’d make it through. I’m not a warrior. I’m a survivor. I’m that person that doesn’t...

Forgiveness

To forgive is a divine attribute. It is to pardon or excuse someone from blame for an offense or misdeed. The scriptures refer to forgiveness in two ways. The Lord commands us to repent of our sins and seek His forgiveness. He also commands us to forgive those who...

A Time to Rest

Things have been shifting lately. It’s that time of the year when living things start to go to sleep. As winter approaches, preparations need to be made. On the farm, shelters need to be built. Fencing needs to be secured. Soil needs to be amended. Animals need extra...

Privacy

Some chapters of our lives are best kept to ourselves. Some parts of our lives are best kept concealed. Some past memories are best kept confidential. And some aspects of our being are more personal to us. And while we may choose to be open and authentic about who we...

Open Your Eyes

Our God is the most amazing artist. It reminds me that some will always find fault in everything and in everyone. Seeing the positive in situations is hard for some. Gratitude is much more than a fleeting “thank you.” It’s a deep appreciation within yourself for the...

Worthy of God’s Best

It is clear that God wants us to live intentionally. He desires us to make wise choices that benefit our well-being and help us remain close to Him. We simply can’t do that if we don’t love ourselves. If we don’t grasp and appreciate our value, we won’t treat...

It’s Okay

If you’re feeling a little lost, it’s okay. If your ambitions, dreams, desires, wants, and needs have changed, it’s okay. It’s been two years of a pandemic. It’s okay if it has changed you. It’s okay if you’re meeting yourself for the first time, or again. It’s okay...

Recovered Runner

I’m a recovered runner. And I’m not talking about the athletic kind. I mean the kind that when things got tough, I ran. When relationships hit a rough patch, I ran. When there was drama, I ran. When there was confrontation, I ran. I ran from feelings, emotions, and...

Surrender

I wish that I could tell you that you won’t go through hard times. I wish that I could protect you from hurt. I wish that I could tell you that bad things will never happen to you. But I can’t. What I can tell you is that God has it under control. He does truly have...

Snakes are Evil

I used to spend summers with my grandparents. One week out of the summer I would attend vacation bible school for a few hours and then spend the rest of the day riding my bike down country roads or lazy afternoons on the front porch breaking beans with my Mamaw. One...

You are Enough

Have you ever been told you’re not good enough? You’re not pretty enough? You’re not loved? You’re not worthy? You’ll never make it on your own? You’re not skinny enough? The list could go on and on. Words are damaging. Just because no physical harm is done, it’s...

Go Placidly

Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have...

Get Busy Living

I’m a really good listener.I try to be fair, non judgmental, intuitive, and give the best advice I can offer. I love that people look to me for advice. It is the highest form of flattery and friendship. I have friends that are 20 , 30, 40, and higher. No matter...

Thankful

Thankful… Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. For our family, it’s a day to gather together and take stock of our blessings. Like all of you, during the roller coaster ride of life, our family has experienced times of great joy and moments of deep sadness, but there...

Silence is Golden

This has been a year of being called to “be still”. To sit in my waiting. To surrender to the desire to control situations. To be quiet. To not engage. Silence can make us uncomfortable because we’re so used to distracting ourselves from what we’re really feeling. Be...

Life is Hard

Life is hard. People are hard. It seems like we now live in a world where people are hardening their hearts. I get it. Survival mode. Totally get it. If we put walls up around our heart, we can’t get hurt. We are so easily agitated these days. Easily offended. Quick...

Under a Microscope

I haven’t shared very much this year. And there’s a perfectly good reason for that. When you are living your life under a microscope and someone is watching your every move and hanging on your every word, you have a tendency to shut down. There’s a need for privacy....

Extra

What is extra? What does it mean when referring to someone as being “extra”? Is it a negative or positive thing? Extra: Definition- Over the top. Excessive or dramatic behavior. What does being extra really mean ? Authenticity — Being extra, in most cases,...

It is Time

I had some content prepared for today. But something bigger came to me yesterday morning. I apologize in advance that these words might not be for you. But they may resonate. I usually share my thoughts in hopes that it might have an impact on someone else. But today...

Perspective

Let’s talk about perspective. Are you feeling anxious? Sad? Overwhelmed? Lost? Empty? Lonely? If so, you have every right to feel that way. You have every right to express that. I am reminded every day just how lucky I am in every aspect of my life. I woke up today. I...

Hurt People Hurt People

Have you ever heard the old saying “hurt people hurt people”? Am I right? How true is this statement? When you are an empath, you feel everybody else’s feels. Sometimes you feel it for them because they are incapable of it themselves. When you’re a listener, you are...

Let it Go

It’s hard to let go of things that no longer serve you. Most of the time hanging on does more harm than good. Are you wondering if it’s time to let go? Ask yourself these questions:   Is it still relevant? If it isn’t growing you or making a positive impact on...

Know Your Worth

Enough is Enough Know your worth. I think these 3 words are the most overused, under rated and unappreciated words we can use. Do you really know your worth? Like deep down, 100% know your worth. Forget the memes. Forget the Instagram and Tik Tok videos. Dig deep and...

I Have You

This morning I sat down with my coffee to do the usual….spend my day in front of a computer screen [because that’s what I do]. But then a little voice in my head [or a bigger one from above] said…why don’t you get outside for awhile today?...

Never Give Up

Sometimes life throws you a curveball. At other times, your GPS seems completely off course.We all have a story. Every story is different. Mine might go something like this… “There was a time that she couldn’t see the light. Too fragile and broken to gather her senses...

A Right for a Better You

Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Some too dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and ways of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness....

Give Without Expecting in Return

Giving and expecting reciprocity is NOT giving, but rather an attitude of mercantile exchange where one offers something and expects something in return (gratitude, praise or respect, etc.)! You will always be disappointed when you demand gratitude and respect. Those...

Ask Him Again

I know, I know, you’ve already asked Him a million times, I see those eyes rolling. But today, ask Him a million and one. Yes. Ask Him AGAIN. Ask Him again for that child to come home. That marriage to be healed. That mountain to move. Ask Him again for that...

Girl Trips

This weekend I took a road trip with a few girlfriends to Cherokee NC. I know most of you are thinking that we hit the casino. Negatory. Believe it or not we made the pilgrimage to a healing revival. (No snakes were involved). None of us knew what to expect. But how...

What’s Meant For You

My life has been a roller coaster the past few years. I’ve spent a lot of time lately reflecting, praying and…waiting. Here’s what I’ve learned the hard way, so listen well ladies of all ages. God’s best won’t be stolen or taken… His best for you won’t...

When Reality Hits

Remember that day when you woke up and looked around and realized your house was a disaster? That there were piles of clutter everywhere, pet hair, stacks of mail and miscellaneous nonsense everywhere you look ? That you’ve moved 3 times in a year and a half....

It Takes Great Courage

It takes great courage to remain silent. It takes great courage not to reply when you’re being antagonized. It takes great courage to have your personal life exposed. It takes great courage to leave those things on your social media for the world to see. It takes...

Happy International Women’s Day

Happy International Women’s Day. Thankful for all the women in my life that get up, show up and get it done every day. You are stronger than you’ll ever know. You got to this point because you chose not to play the victim card. You took responsibility for yourself and...