Narcissists are charming. Out of the blue they can swoop in, sweep you off your feet, and have you believing they are your soulmate instantaneously. Things are going great and then suddenly you start to feel like something is off with their behavior. You start to question yourself. This is where it all begins. A constant cycle of “Am I crazy”, but they are so………..
- grandiose
- controlling
- preoccupied with self
- need constant attention
- sense of entitlement
- lack of empathy
- arrogant
- selfish
- live in a fantasy world
- quick to tell you they love you
- they will one-up you
- they have no friends
- they gaslight you
- they never apologize
- it’s always your fault
- they play the victim
OK, now what? What do you do now?
You can’t change a person with NPD. You must first decide what you are willing to put up with. Unfortunately during the time you have already spent with this person they have been grooming you. They know a lot about you. Make no mistake, they are ready to use this information against you. If you decide that you want to end a relationship with a narcissist, you better be ready for a battle. You must have a plan. The first thing that you have to do is decide that you absolutely do not want to be with this person and be firm in every way, word, or action. NO CONTACT is the only way to leave this situation behind. Cut off all ties. Cut off all forms of communication. And be prepared for the backlash, because they will not go quietly. It’s not gonna be easy. You will need a support system. Let someone know what you are going through. But you can do it!