The World is your oyster. My girlfriend bought me this jewelry holder for my birthday. Ironic that it comes from the store Grit & Grace. That pretty much sums up her life story and mine. As I begin my 56th year around the sun I am more dialed in than ever on just how important friendships are with women as we age. Women are spectacular. Women are brave. Women are strong as hell, but also a soft place to seek comfort. I think as women we place a higher importance on relationships than men do. We are emotional. We understand that life is fleeting, and we need to make the most of it. We also have less tolerance for BS. Our time is specious. We are often stretched thin making sure that those we love are taken care of. So, if we don’t see that you are making an effort to match our energy, we’ll withdraw it. The world truly is your oyster. You can do anything that you want to do. Take the trip. Buy the shoes. Eat the cake. Schedule the massage. Pour into yourself for a change. If you are waiting for someone else to fill your cup, STOP. I’ve talked about wasting the waiting before. You want to go to that restaurant, but you don’t want to go alone. Do it anyway. Belly up to the bar. You’ll be so glad you did. You want to travel but you’re waiting for that special person to do it with. Go anyway. Traveling alone is fabulous! You can make your own schedule and do the things that fill your soul. But don’t sit at home and waste your time. You’re not getting any more time back. Doing life solo isn’t something to be ashamed of. It just means that you value yourself enough to be alone instead of accepting breadcrumbs from someone who can’t emotionally be all in. Choose yourself my friend. Always. And enjoy every oyster you can get your hands on. And do it often.
